By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. I realize this might sound silly, but why not make a date? EDIT: Thank you to everyone for your suggestions and helpful tips! FYI, she is probably experiencing depression too. Spend time with her equal to what you are spending with Bella. Maybe you could make a temp character on her game and have a cute museum date together (maybe occupied with some ocean nature documentaries afterwards?). Sable). Dude, if at all possible you should see if you can pick up another switch/switch lite and a copy to play with her. You need to look after her because she is going to crash and burn otherwise, her emotions have never been prioritised so she won’t know how to prioritise them. Amy has made some truly great and supportive friends who she calls on Zoom daily nowadays, but Bella met an incredibly toxic girl when she was 15. Terraforming in Animal Crossing is a tedious job, but can produce banger results. I'll focus on other ways for us to spend time together so that she can have that freedom to be in that world. Thank you guys so much, I think we can take it from here. Thank you for your kind wishes, I hope everything will be okay in the end. I was able to get free therapy and recognize that my family, as dysfunctional as they were, would never recognize the hell they put me through. I never thought I'd be making one of these posts here but I'm at an utter loss and need some fresh eyes on this situation. RELATED: Animal Crossing: New Horizons - How To Pick The Best Gifts For Each Villager. Villager Quests. Most importantly, you need professional mental health experts for both girls. We seek posts from users who have specific and personal relationship quandaries that other redditors can help them try to solve. What can I do? I didn't think of it that way. The inquiry, originally posted to the is r/relationship_advice subreddit, has since been removed by moderators for unknown reasons. Nintendo Switch consoles are often sold out, but you can still pick up the handheld-only Switch Lite, which is perfect for portable Animal Crossing. Bella confided in me that she thought Amy was prettier than her (which makes no sense as they're identical twins) and smarter (both are equally brilliant). She's immersed in AC? I hope you can find some good friends through mutual hobbies, church, etc. So, with being stuck home bc of Covid-19, Homeschooling, and now Snow, we decided to bring the outside decorations inside, by creating our own interactive Animal Crossing Island. Press J to jump to the feed. P.S. My bf has been playing loads more video games since quarantine and he never would have before and I find it hard to ask him anything like ‘do you want a cup of coffee’ when he’s gaming, it’s the same with him to me if I’m pissing about on reddit. Best wishes and stay safe. NO NEW THREADS FOR: Trading, giveaways, questions, code sharing, Nook/Lisa Simpson suggestion image macros. Hey, can we have a “date” at 7 pm (or whenever fits into your schedules)? There's an animal crossing movie, you could try watching that with her! I'll look into family counselling as another person said I really hope it works. According to the guide, Flick and C.J. It has always been a friend basis with Animal Crossing. Go for a swim, cross-breed flowers and other ways to make the most of Nintendo's hit game. Yes even I used to make fun of people with depression, I would read posts about people not wanting to get up and think "what kind of person can't even get out of bed" but now I understand. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Animal Crossing is something that my partner is super into. We are all going to talk tomorrow too, I'm going to call the therapist tomorrow and check out the online options available that some have suggested. I know that sounds petty and childish (I struggle with some insecurities so bear with me) but I can't help but feel second fiddle to this game. This was a really nice thing to read. I've tried that approach but there isn't a time she's not playing the game. I felt so neglected in my teen years. I guess I just need to chill and think of the silver lining. Right now now, give Amy her space. She's been struggling on her own all this time. Amy very likely feels neglected by you and your father, and probably even Bella since they used to be so close. I am Amy, only with boy-girl twins. That first time she needed the support. They both make easy targets for each other to take their resentment out on. Yes, that is difficult, really difficult for two teenage girls, but explaining that it is okay to express how you feel is a good way to start. If Amy knew exactly what Bella was going through, she would understand. Give her someone to confide in, be her friend while all of her friends are out of reach. There are some big issues here that you absolutely can't deal with without the help of a mental health professional. If only mom groups on Facebook weren't so... weird, but friends without children also tend to get frustrated whenever I have to tend to childcare duties, which is why I lost contact with a lot of school friends too when I got pregnant much younger than most in my friendgroup. There’s a lot of assumptions about gaming and “but society!! This is perfect. Both of them are wonderful people and they have been raised by you, a wonderful parent. It just requires an empty notebook and some pencils, but it can be as simple or as complicated as they want. Bella is a more difficult person to reach. I’m in my 40s now - I would have given anything for someone to even ask me how I was doing back then. Thank you. After that, I wondered. even when the issue was fixable. Hit … Use the pinned Q&A + friend code megathreads. It sounds like your dad is a great resource. I've texted all my friends for help but honestly my culture doesn't have a good understanding of mental health and I haven't said much about my family issues to them... one of them said that Bella was 'being a brat' and another said I should get Bella committed and I'm horrified. I wouldn’t take it personally, but you should talk to her and make sure she knows how much you love and appreciate her. Amy doesn't want to leave her room and won't even come out for dinner and keeps telling me to go away and I can tell she's been crying too. Please answer .., Animal Crossing: New Leaf Questions and answers, 3DS Giving her a therapist as someone to confide in would be good too. But it sounds like you’re upset that they won’t stop playing to talk when you want to . Maybe schedule time with her for movies or dinner or have certain periods throughout the week to spend time with her and then each of you can have time alone. Regarding your daughters, these troubles will happen with families, especially, like you said, in a culture not as open to mental health. are roommates and business partners, which is one explanation for C.J. Blaming yourself does nothing productive, focus on helping your kids. Also, maybe find something (a hobby) you can go together. Mental health services were declared non-essential for a few weeks unfortunately and only just become essential again, but I'll try to get a therapist for Amy ASAP. She said she wished Bella would just kill herself so our lives could go back to normal. Use the pinned Q&A + friend code megathreads. This game is meant to be played with other people. Although players may be tempted to jump forward or backward time in "Animal Crossing: New Horizons," it hurts the natural flow of the life simulator game by Nintendo for the Nintendo Switch. I heard "stay strong" and "you can't break down too, we don't have the time" so many times I lost count. My job is more demanding now (thanks to COVID) and I'm working from home but if I'm not working them I'm sleeping ( I work nights). There is miscommunication between Amy and Bella. I told her I am so sorry for ignoring her and a lot of you are right, she felt a lot of pressure to be "no trouble" and not add more stress onto the situation, but because of that she's been hiding a lot of her own problems. I'll make sure to talk to her again and lay out some things for us to do together that can give us a chance to be technology free and have some quality time. It sounds to me like she’s hiding behind a video game for some unknown reason but it also sounds to me like it’s too addicting and it’s start to affect your relationship. For Animal Crossing: New Leaf on the 3DS, a GameFAQs message board topic titled "So do you build a relationship with villagers? Amy doesn't fully understand Bella's situation and doesn't know how Bella feels about her. I'm definitely into the game more than my partner but it means a lot when they show me they're happy for me when I show them a new fish I've caught, I'm sure you've had times when you get really into a game and she's doing that now, probably because she's stressed or anxious about all the pandemic stuff going on. This way you don’t feel left out and she doesn’t feel like she has no time to herself. In response to Animal Crossing: New Horizons fans interpreting the relationship between traveling NPCs Flick and C.J. Good luck because honestly, this is a good way to learn not to take someone for granted! And that’s a you problem. Please review the rules before posting. You need to do this now, definitely before she leaves for university. She became Bella's "best friend" but isolated her, constantly put Bella down and destroyed her self-confidence. It was incredibly hard on everyone including my daughters as all live together and my mother helped to take care of them for years while my father and I worked, they were very close. Amy and Bella both scored amazing marks but while Amy managed to get into their dream school, Bella fell just short of the requirement. I think she also might appreciate if you got more involved. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Can we not safely assume that most of us employing some form of escapism isn’t for “some unknown reason” while in the midst of a pandemic. Animal Crossing island name ideas - and why you can't change your island name in New Horizons Some advice on how to settle on an important choice. I will try to get them to talk tomorrow or at least talk with Amy if they're not ready yet. She could be doing much worse to make you jealous. At this point I heard the shouting but only saw Amy storm off into her room and Bella in tears on the couch. I have two beautiful twin daughters. Amy has a boyfriend currently which I feel Bella is also jealous about. 1. I know this isn't important but if they need any flowers I'm breeding alot of different kinds currently. - We recently started playing the game and my 3 kids love it. OP, you’re doing a terrific job - these things unfortunately happen, but you’re doing a wonderful job of navigating it. My father blames himself for not letting Bella give Amy her character but I think something like this was going to happen eventually if Amy is truly resentful, I just didn't think it would be so horrible and I wish I'd done something earlier. This was not caused by anything you have done, it was caused from hidden feelings which no one can control. Bella tried to give Amy her control stick but my father offered to let Amy play his character instead. Sorry the post is so long, I feel a bit better typing it all out. Hello. One day you probably wont be around and they have to decide whether they want to have each other for support or not. Bullet journaling is one part day planner, one part habit tracker and one part artistic journal where you pour out your soul. If you wait she may leave and not come back - not because she has any ill will towards you, but because she feels there isn’t room for her. I was going to say the same - therapy for everyone. Or if she seems to struggle with it, she may have an addiction problem and that can get out of hand if not dealt with, far worse than what it is now. 1st off, I'm using my mobile app - sorry for format errors. Bella's saying that Amy's right and she should just kill herself and I just wish I could take the pain away from her, I feel like a failure of a mother. This is excellent advice. I had Amy and Bella (fake names) when I was only 22 and my late husband, their father, passed away when they were both still toddlers. I would be echoing most of what was already said but I didn’t see anything about sharing a bedroom. Animal Crossing, for those who have yet to be consumed, is a Nintendo game that lets you fish, plant trees, make furniture, and generally be merry as one of many little digital villagers. Introducing Good News Gaming, the show where we highlight uplifting gaming news stories that'll warm your hearts. - but couldn’t shake the feeling that I’d be adding to their problems. Unfortunately last year was also their O-Level year, a national exam all 16 year old students have to take. That being said your partner needs to learn to create boundaries and spend time doing other things such as spending time with you. Miscommunication is no one's fault, especially a parent trying their best. Try what you can and best of luck. Okay I think how much time she is spending playing is absolutely critical information, cuz there is a big difference between 5/10/15 hours a day. That may be what she is doing. I let Bella down and didn't notice the signs until she broke down in school last year and they sent her home early. As a gamer you know that video games can offer a certain “safe space” or freedom that real life may not have. Now, you can talk to people more often and get them to open up more to you (ex. I wish you the best with all of this. Remind them that you're family and that families fight sometimes but it's not okay to speak to each other that way. I can try again and give it another go maybe I can find something in there that I would like, As someone who's playing a lot of Animal Crossing right now, it's definitely helping me maintain my mental health and healthy lifestyle things (Like waking up at reasonable hours), She probably needs an escape because the world is scary right now - that's not a bad thing, Like someone said, planning some cute at home dates would be good. If it's not on the TV then she's on the couch playing or in the backyard playing (like our physical backyard). It helped me a lot when I was going through a depressive phase. Don't be a jerk and keep it safe for work 2. Otherwise, I’d say maybe try cooking together or meal planning. My sister has, thankfully, been doing extremely well: she’s 20 years sober, engaged to the love of her life, and has a great, very close relationship with my parents. Right? If Bella heard from Amy "You are beautiful, Bella" or even "I understand," that can go such a long way for Bella. Yes!! What can I do to stop being to incensed by a video game? Therapy will help but so will lifestyle changes such as exercise and healthy diet. Do they need to talk and set aside time for each other? But you cannot have a relationship. I was playing on acnl, letting Papi come in (or whatever the horses name is) then he said, Honey! I've been crying for hours and at a loss for what to do. Thank you all so much. Every time you set her down she falls down again so you carry her some more. It might take awhile, but if it were me - eventually I would have come around, and would have been extremely grateful for it. I'm incredibly fortunate to have the money to afford therapy so I'm going to put it all to good use. As the other dude said, she could be doing way worse stuff, and while it may seem annoying it seems relatively harmless when compared to her snap chatting a random dude her cleavage. I think you just need to make some time as a couple. So I never told them. Now she needs the support to learn how to walk again. Like every moment she's not doing something important or mandatory ( like working or taking the dog out) she's playing AC. You should probably sit both of them down for a talk that you will lead. If you want to get the most out of your chill island experience in Animal Crossing: New Horizons for the Nintendo Switch, follow our advice for building your residence and community. If you need some advice on how to best terraform your Animal Crossing: New Horizons island, you've come to the right place. Which is also understandable. I preordered the game for her a long time before the boom in popularity and she was looking forward to it for ages. Also, why not hangout with her while she plays? Maybe find a hobby that has head phones.....it’s a game your in quarantine she’s probably bored and that’s the only thing giving her joy during this /taking her mind off things maybe find something to do the same rather then sit around and feel jealous of a game. I massively agree with the first paragraph. Also I could see when I started improving. I would suggest looking at bullet journals for both of them. AC also offers a very simple system of feeling accomplished and rewarded which might be something she can’t access because of the covid situation. They are different people with different feelings, but fundamentally, a miscommunication is happening. My father has been playing with her and Bella was doing very well. If you need to, ask her for short date time (20-30 minutes) at some other time. Don’t write off antidepressants there are a lot out there and the trick is finding the one which helps. Bella doesn't fully understand Amy's situation and doesn't know how Amy feels about her. But we don’t need all the rest of the disparaging comments about “addiction”. NO NEW THREADS FOR: Trading, giveaways, questions, code sharing, Nook/Lisa Simpson suggestion image macros. You facilitating that can be amazing for everyone in the house and family. Completing quests will award you a 1 point plus a bonus of 1-2 points depending on your friendship tier and a little bit of luck. My best advice is to make Amy feel like she’s “home,” and that she can have emotions and victories and problems, too. Finally, as much as a parent wants to do and wants to help (which is great), ultimately someone like Amy is best for going forward. Throughout this whole time Amy was so amazing, she was hit really hard by my mother's passing but supported Bella and specifically invited friends who were into the same anime Bella liked to hang out with her so she wouldn't feel so lonely. A therapist can give her that guidance. You have the right to every emotion you have" can be helpful for them becoming more comfortable. ♥ I got my first job at 16 so I could take care of my own needs, and moved 3000 miles away by 18. I don't know if they want to talk but I will try tomorrow. With the previous account, sometimes I asked for relationship advice, and most commenters would reply "dump him!" That is a good phrase, I'll use that! Sometimes it doesn't matter how "the world" comes through for you so much as that it does. But the fact is that there are bigger issues here than just getting them to be civil. It's driving me crazy. I struggle personally with whether I'm a good mother and I honestly cried with how many people said I was doing not just OK, but fantastic. Op I’m curious how much time you spend gaming as well? Saying "Say what you feel, there is no wrong way to feel. <3. It’s just like when someone’s reading. It's a tangent, but it's a truly thoughtful one. Just days after the reliable Animal Crossing dataminer Ninji revealed how certain villagers will only send you fake ... Word of advice, you'll never be happy with social media. And encourage them acknowledge what they said was wrong and apologize to each... then maybe consider therapy as a family. Stay with Bella but don't hover over her. We are friendly of course, but not really close. Teens now have a lot of adult worries thrown at them that we didn’t have growing up. However Bella had a much tougher time growing up than Amy. I've tried playing the game but it's not all that interesting to me. Oh thanks! Please review the rules before posting. I don't want my daughters to hate each other... EDIT: I did not expect so much attention and wonderful support, thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart! !” In this comment and I have to say, I disagree. Occasionally villagers will give you quests. It may mean sacrificing another space in the house but it would give the two of them some breathing room. Animal Crossing DIY Home Edition. I used to play regularly but with my new job just mostly on the weekend. She loves that game and although we're both gamers (I understand wanting to play a game all the damn time and talking about it non stop), it's starting to get on my nerves how much time she pays attention to it and not to me. It was reposted … I'm ashamed to say that I largely have not paid much attention to Amy these last 10 months, and I think that's what caused the huge fight today. Years of silence and distance have done irrevocable damage. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. They were inseperable when younger but around their teens started to have different friends and spent time apart which I thought was great because I wanted them to develop as individuals too. I'm sure they love each other, such tension happens when hiding emotions. Welcome to the Animal Crossing subreddit! Is it possible to give them each their own room? Start making calls! Absolutely. She would likely find so much joy in helping you get into it. She needs to be coddled and looked after too. Mom, you’re doing what you can with all that life has thrown at you. As we have all been quarantining, Bella has been playing Animal Crossing nonstop. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the relationship_advice community, Continue browsing in r/relationship_advice. They’re very tense around each other still but have apologized and my father & I will be taking turns on the couch to give Bella my room so they can have a bit more privacy, you guys are right they’re both quite annoyed they’ve never had her own room before and hopefully after the pandemic we can move things around a bit so everyone has their own space. Land and learn what to expect when you want to be civil she also might if... 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